I hope to reclaim the woman I was before. I hope to have a safe place to grieve, process, and heal. I hope to stop circling the drain and become the hero of my betrayal story. I hope to re-envision…
Stay Safely???
Sometimes it is not possible to stay safely. If you are in danger, and you feel physically afraid of someone–you cannot grow and thrive in an environment of fear. You can survive in an environment of fear, but you cannot…
HARD Questions Before Full Disclosure
How do I survive my marriage? Tell myself everyday: I didn’t cause it, I can’t cure it, and I can’t control it. Start walking 1 hour a day again. It’s so hard for me because the answers to solve it…
A Look Back at 6 Months Post Discovery…
You don’t understand. I can’t brush my dog. I can’t brush my dog. I can’t brush my dog. He is fed, he is loved, he has warmth & a cozy home. No, I can’t brush him. I have no capacity….
Bi-Weekly Reflection Questions Before Disclosure
For 6 months after discovery, I met with Elise Berryhill to help me navigate this new course. These were Elise’s questions that I reflected upon/answered at the onset of each session. What do you feel you have accomplished since our…
The Most Important Step
I had never heard of a therapeutic full disclosure before, and I believe this is the most important step to begin healing and rebuilding trust. Yet, I also feel this is the most fragile time for the betrayed partner, and…