My Top 20 Resources
- Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S – Braving Hope Coaching Program: Become the HERO of Your Betrayal Story-including the community of courageous women & The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst https://michellemays.com/braving-hope-coaching-program/
- Leslie Vernick – Podcast-Relationship Truth: Unfiltered and The Emotionally Destructive Marriage https://leslievernick.com/blog/relationship-truth-unfiltered/
- Rosie Makinney – Podcast: Fight for Love https://fightforloveministries.org/podcasts/1-introducing-fight-for-love/
- Dr. Paula Hall, UKCP: Accredited Sexual and Relationship Psychotherapist – Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples and Those Who Help Them and Ted Talk: “We Need to Talk About Sex Addiction” https://www.paulahall.co.uk/
- Elise Berryhill, LPC- Counseling and Life Coaching https://www.eliseberryhillcounseling.com/
- Jennifer Cole, Disclosure Preparation Life Coach, jen@jennifercole.coach
- Dr. Janice Caudill PhD, CCPS-S, CSAT-S, CPTT-S, IAT, SEP-Therapeutic Full Disclosure Guide https://intensivehope.com/pages/miscellaneous/dgbio-janice.html
- Shawna Meek CERTIFIED COACH, PCC, CPC-S-Betrayed Partner Group Leader https://www.livingstonescoaching.com/
- “Wm. Paul Young Shares His Powerful Testimony—Session 10(FGC2016)-https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K8fl_wprdck&t=10s (Paul Young, author of The Shack, helped me understand sexual addiction.)
- You’re Going to Make It by Lysa TerKeurst
- Deceived: Facing the Trauma of Sexual Betrayal by Claudia Black
- Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5 Step Boundary Solution by Vicki Palmer
- An Affair of the Mind: One Woman’s Courageous Battle to Salvage Her Family from the Devastation of Pornography by Laurie Hall
- The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
- The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker
- Out of the Fog by Dana Morningstar
- Dissolving Toxic Masculinity by Thomas Haller
40 More
Understanding Sexual Compulsivity
- YouTube: Dr. Robert Weiss Discusses Porn Addiction on the Mel Robbins Show
- Workshop: “Foundations for Recovery: Understanding Sexual Compulsivity” by Michelle Mays https://michellemays.com/programs/foundations-for-recovery/
- Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens
- Letters from a Sex Addict by Wendy Conquest and Dan Drake
- Women accusing OUR Founder Tim Ballard of Sexual Assault Speak Out https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wq17yH_31XI
Experiencing Sexual Betrayal
- Drs. Earl and Sandy Wilson, retired counselors sharing their betrayal story/help https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYDPPA2idQfRm45oADTv2ug/featured?view_as=public
- Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal by Sheri Keffer
- Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stephanie Carnes
- Awake by Jen Hatmaker
- Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken and Rebuilding a Marriage Better Than New by Cindy Beall
- Happily Even After by Dannah Gresh
- Determined for More by Shawna Meek
Needing Self Care
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A van der Kolk
- Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst
- Audiobook: The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connection, and Courage by Brene Brown
- Eat to Beat Disease: The New Science of How Your Body Can Heal Itself by William Li, MD
- Outlive: The Science and Art of Longevity by Peter Attia, MD
Preparing for a Full Disclosure
- Full Disclosure Seeking Truth After Betrayal Volume One: Understanding How an Disclosure Can Help You Heal by Janice Caudill and Dan Drake
- Full Disclosure Seeking Truth After Betrayal Volume Two for Partners: Preparing for Disclosure on Your Terms by Janice Caudill and Dan Drake
- Full Disclosure Seeking Truth After Betrayal Volume Three: Post Disclosure Healing by Janice Caudill and Dan Drake
- Disclosing Secrets: An Addicts Guide for When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal by M. Deborah Corley and Jennifer P. Schneider
- Surviving Disclosure: A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust by Jennifer P. Schneider and M. Deborah Corley
Looking for Inspiration
- The Choice: Embrace the Possible book by Edith Eger
- The Gift: 14 Lessons to Save Your Life book by Edith Eger
- When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalinithi
Conference
- Betrayal Healing Conference https://betrayalhealingconference.com/schedule/ Women’s Panel Discussion- What I Wish I Would Have Known… and Dr. Janice Caudill: “What Do You Get When You Mix Sex Addiction and Intimacy Anorexia? Married and Alone- A Sexually Betrayed, Intimacy Depraved Partner
Art
Eva Koleva Timothy Painting “Grace” Eva Timothy Art
Shawn Collins ChristLifeArtShop “Abide” Abide – Handmade Relief Print — Christ Life Art
Blog Posts
Mindset, Betrayal, and the Brain by Michelle Mays https://michellemays.com/mindset-betrayal-and-the-brain/
I am Supported: Changing Beliefs Regardless of Circumstances https://michellemays.com/i-am-supported-changing-beliefs-regardless-of-circumstance/
Poem
Autobiography in Five Short Chapters” by Portia Nelson
Broadway
Hamilton
Six
Hades Town
Movies
Dear Evan Hansen
Ordinary Angels
American Symphony
Spiritual Formation
Practicing the Way: Be with Jesus. Become Like Him. Do As He Did and Live No Lies John Mark Comer
The Bible Recap by Tara Leigh Cobble
My Playlist
20 Songs
- “Rise Up” by Andra Day
- “Fight Song” by Rachel Platten
- “Praying” by Kesha
- “Wake Me Up” by Avicii
- My Healing” by Sophia Spallino
- “Redemption” by Syts (instrumental piano)
- “Nuvole Bianche” by Ludovico Einaudi (instrumental piano)
- “Get Back Your Fight” by Sarah Reeves
- “Fight on Fighter” by King and Country
- “Belong to You” by Here Be Lions
- “Highlands” (Song of Ascent) Acoustic by Hillsong
- “You’re Gonna Be Okay” Brian and Jenn Johnson
- “QUIET” (Acoustic) Hillsong Recording and Diana Trout
- “Only There” by Shane and Shane
- “Though You Slay Me” by Shane and Shane- featuring John Piper
- “Sorry” by NF
- “Running” by NF
- “Grow As We Go” by Ben Platt
- “Found/Tonight” by Ben Platt & Lin Manuel Miranda
- “No Matter What” (feat. Bart Millard) by Ryan Stevenson
35 More Songs
- “Get Back Up Again” in Trolls
- “More Than Enough” by Sarah Reeves
- “Hold on Honey” by Kayley Bishop
- “You Hold it All” by Porter’s Gate
- “Try” by Colbie Caillat
- “HOPE” & “Happy” by NF
- “I Won’t Give Up” by Jason Mraz
- “It’s Quiet Uptown” by Lin-Manuel Miranda
- “All I Ask of You” from the Phantom of the Opera
- “You are the Reason” by Calum Scott
- “It Never Went Away” and “Butterfly” by John Batiste
- “Beautifully Broken” by Plumb
- “You Will Be Found” and “Words Fail” by Ben Platt
- “Man of Sorrows,” “Hallelujah Christ Will Come Again,” and “Psalm 90 by Shane and Shane
- “Reign Above it All” and “Worthy of it All” by The Worship Initiative
- “Lose You To Love Me/Heart Of Stone” by Selena Gomez/Six
- “Heart of Stone” by Natalie Paris
- “Therapy” by Andrew Garfield and Vanessa Hudgens in Tick Tick Boom
- “Ms. Langtree’s Lament” in Over the Garden Wall
- “Lifetime” by Justin Bieber
- “I Hope you Dance” by LeeAnn Womack
- “Blackbird” by Sarah McLachlan
- “History of Man” by Maisie Peters
- “Remember When” by Alan Jackson
- “About Today” by The National
- “Liar” by Noah Cyrus
- “Someone You Loved” by Lewis Capaldi
- “Bad for Me” by Meghan Trainor
- “Little Do You Know” by Alex and Sierra