“I didn’t cause it, I can’t control it, I can’t cure it” Al-Anon’s 3C’s.
These were the words I was introduced to in June of 2022.
But there is there is a 4th C not as well known: “I don’t have to contribute to it.”
I don’t do for him what he can do for himself.
I don’t cover up or make excuses for his choices.
I let him face the effects and consequences and natural developments of his choices.
I do not create or contribute to more chaos and turmoil.
I am not God. I cannot control him. I cannot fix him.
I don’t jump in and rescue, rescue, rescue.
I mind my P’s and Q’s.
I am loving and supportive.
I do not get embroiled in the drama.
I do not contribute to the problem.
Well, I am working on these things. I am…aware.
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light. Ephesians 5:8 (NIV)
